This is what is done in Trinidad. Everytime we visit, we visit the cemetary and we thank the relative that has been caring for the plot. My parents have finally accepted cremation in their plans, as I will too -- made me think how different it will be for future generations as more of us choose cremation.

I enjoyed your article - as always Kit. I loved your closing lines - beautiful, it indeed does. Visiting the cemetary has a special place...it's removed when we go with the cremation route. thought-provoking...