Thanks for sharing your truth that is always teaching us to think about our experiences and especially how we heal.

This is entirely a curiosity—which you can disregard if too complex.

As a therapist, if you had a patient share a memory of enormous laughter and joy where you saw a danger as this one did to you (but it didn’t happen—it was a “that could have happened”)—would you too draw their attention to that?

Granted you are well aware from other experiences were the abuse was, was this one needed too? Was it truly essential for even this one incredible funny moment to be “undistorted”—which also can be argued, wasn’t distorted?

I appreciate the important point you’re making which is how we compensate for pain and trauma.

But OMG—it sounds to me like one of those perfect childhood moments that only two people understood the incredible funniness of it—and I hated that it was taken away.

Anyhow—who am I?—i have zero experience and zero credentials, but thanks for allowing me to share.

Keep writing and teaching!
Much love to you!

PS I grew up at a time where there were some pretty fun things we did that easily could have ended up hurting us badly…this made me think of that too. 🫤😑