Thank you so much for sharing your sincere perspective - I think I battled with my decision for this exact reason. It's almost as though I'm not standing up for what she would have wanted me to....you know what's hard: I know she really wanted us to have something; she would ask me over and over: Nat, what do you want? I told her -- nothing, I just want to enjoy having you with us for as long as possible. So she finally picked something for him - my husband, which I didn't go into why it's such a special gift...anyhow.

I hear you - and I thank you for the advice.

This taught me - I wasn't expecting this lesson...but I suppose that's life huh...

Thanks for your sharing your wisdom. Much gratitude, Philip!