Thank you for sharing Bernie--you do make us reflect deeply on what truly matters in life, and it's why you're one of the most effective and best writers on this platform. I was going to read about your travels in New Zealand - but am glad you referenced where it all began. I was so sorry to read of your Dad's bout again with cancer...I will continue to read and I'm so hoping he will hold his brothers and sisters, and see his grandchild get married...we felt the burden of it it all. He deserves joy. So do you.