Oh Cat -- thank you for this -- I wish I could clap 500 times for this. I think this is a powerful story and one you should write! If you have -- please let me know as I would love to read it.

Interestingly yes, I've read of families that do accept that yelling is the way to communicate and they live with it. I applaud you not only for having adapted to try to be the partner you felt you needed to be, and now realize there may be a better way for you and are working through it.

This is the magical journey that makes life so rewarding -- I will be saving your comment as a reminder that it's never too late to change. It's never too late to say: I want and can do better!

Thank you so much for reading and sharing this personal anecdote. Much love to you as you keep working on those boundaries and loving each other through it all...