My .02:

spend time in Medium where it helps you grow, in writing, as a human, as a friend…beyond that —it’s too much energy for just the sake of reciprocation, it’s not worth it.

Judge your heart, once you know you don’t really feel like reading an “article”—don’t.

Be truthful to yourself. Surely, it’s normal all of us reciprocate out of courtesy, but even so—be choosy with what you read so that the engagement is real. That’s what I try to do.

If I didn’t have my spreadsheet to help me make sure that I’m am first reading my tribe, I would have given up and stopped. It truly can be too much.
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In the love arena…ahhh.

Truth should be reciprocal.

If you’re not transparent, I don’t see how that could be a flourishing relationship. BUT only in the early stages do we dab in going little by little….but to me, once the relationship is declared: a serious one: go all in. Full reciprocity of sharing our truths…

Let me insert: every one of us has a part of ourselves that belongs only to us. Here’s how I will try to define it, so that I’m clearer. Are there thoughts, dreams, wishes that simply describe an intimate part of your being that doesn’t change or affect your relationship to others? Those are yours and you choose who and how much. Some marriages are made up of people who don’t even share fears and desires. So it’s quite hard to describe what you should share and shouldn’t.

But to hold back from who you are so early in a relationship?

I mean, if they don’t like the whole truth, does that mean that if they find out the full truth from someone else or later, it helps any? We all come with baggage….

If the other can’t take it, it means it’s not working, right? Don’t couples want to find out as soon as possible whether it’s heading in the right direction or not?…I at least value my time. There’s no reason to be spending time with someone only to find out there was so much more to them.

Okay this is turning out to be way longer than I planned. Lol…

On the other hand, if reciprocating has to do with physical—we’ll, that’s a whole other ball game. Lol…