June, such a raw and open post. Thanks for sharing your heart and thoughts on what is not an easy open and shut case.

As I read your words, I heard:
Frustration he’s been unable to meet your wishes
Reluctance to admit you’re unhappy with that aspect of your marriage
Questioning validity
Yet
Wanting to embrace yourself
Wanting more out of the relationship
Asking who is to blame?
Wondering if you’re to accept and move on

You are only human like all and wanting to be noticed, remembered and thought of—as you think of him—is not in my opinion…excessive.

Is it possible you can have him read this?

Is it possible you can now start dating anew?

Make it fun—what if: you went out and ask him point blank what you finished at the bottom of this story with: how does he feel when you’re not happy with his responses and behavior?

Is it that he is just so comfortable he’s clueless?

Perhaps the act of questions and answers allows you both to rediscover who you are. We all change over the years…marriage is work. It’s actually hard to open up and truly listen to what the other needs and it’s scary to find out:

They are not willing to change. At the end of the day, it always boils down to:
Are you willing to do what it takes to meet the needs and expectations of the other and sometimes it’s yes and sometimes no.

I don’t think it’s a bad thing to want better and more. Why not??
Love and respect are worth it.

Best wishes and much love to you and your marriage! 💛💛💛