I’ve read through all the comments, such wonderful, thoughtful engagements.

Kit, I’ve read just about everything I can get a hold of on what you write. I’ve been an avid fan from day 1.

I know “this piece” was not easy for you and I hope more than anything—it helps you to love yourself, knowing you did the best you could with what you had.

If there’s anything I learned early on as a wife and mother it was: how unique the dynamic is between man and woman—or any gender for that matter, but I almost would argue it’s harder for bisexual relationships…as is the dynamic with our children.

The factors that interplay based on that dynamic could never be fully understood on the outside. It helped me become a better person as I will admit—I was raised watching/hearing people judge divorcées, marriages, children over and over. Those judgements seep into how we think of ourselves…

Perhaps their father keeps repeating that line because of an abandonment from his own mother—perhaps he sees what he did to the family resulting in divorce and as long as he projects it onto others-he’ll feel better about himself….perhaps he still can’t forgive himself for losing you—

In all cases—it’s about him.

I hope you can shed that weight—and move into full embracing the spectacular mom you are and all you have with your boys.

And yep….easier sajd than done. (I need to read that for myself!) ;-)….see?? Sometimes we tell others what truly has to do with ourselves! ;-)

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Thanks for writing this. It’s eye and heart opening…hope many moms read!