It's so good to hear he's alive. I'm so happy for your daughter that she got to hear her dad's voice again and it's a gift for her to have had that opportunity. I feel so bad for him - I've learned so much about addiction through a few of you who write powerfully, thanks for educating us.

It's interesting to hear the tone in your voice change from that first article when you were decisive. I love the change - I love your vulnerability to remind us all that when we too question and change our minds it is part of the journey of love. You do care about him - and you're going to get divorced that seems clear to me.

You're thinking of the "how" -- and sometimes doing it in a way that makes you feel better about yourself and/or someone else, is from a position of empowerment - empathy.

The harder question that probably needs to be answered quietly within is: why not? What prevents you from doing it that way? And could it be valid enough to where it's healthier for you - and you've learned to love yourself while sadly his choices show his addiction kept him from doing it for himself. So you have to do it for you and him.

Wishing you a peaceful and wise closure...thanks for sharing with us. It is not easy at all. Much kindness to you!