It's quite frustrating!! I apologize as I badly worded it and so went back to edit, but it's equally bad to me.

She told me - she would buy the food, and then the cost of it all would be split among the four couples. So yeah she's doing job of shopping - and then preparing food, but the issue I have with this:

a. I don't know her

b. I wasn't consulted if I wanted to even be a part of this -- this is the kind of arrangement you make with friends in advance when you're planning it

c. this is the first time you ever have me to your house and made one of those image invites - so it looked all formal - like a proper invitation - so heck, I had NO clue - until last minute that it's a "we are all in this" and then throws in - bring your drink! LOL

I don't even drink - so dang, you can't even offer me water or soda -- nope.

It's just a never -

If I can't afford to have people - I don't host. I'm honest like that.

If I want to have people and need the help, everyone will hear at the get-go: hey, if you can and would like to: we are all chipping in for a get-together. Is this something you can or want to do?

plain and simple. clear and direct.

So yeah - etiquette and social graces are in need! LOL

Thanks for reading Graceeee --- much love!!