I'm sorry for the news you need to break to kiddo...I hope it's not too big of a disappointment, but I trust she'll one day look back and know: she has the best mama in the whole world!
Thanks for the advice and important reminder: we should never make assumptions surrounding holidays and families...loved your advice on how to frame the question to not push someone out of it.
Much love to you - and hope this month is a grand one!