I saw this for years with my aunts, all who complained year after year about what their mother (my grandmother did and didn't do)--- only to see them continue exactly the same cycle...

Your writing reminds me of what Dana just wrote about about "inheritance" which you've always well written here...

I'm sorry to hear he has isolated himself...it's not easy to see how clearly they can receive the help that they are completely blind to.💔😞