I know this line will always stay with me, it points to the deeper problem: the need to satisfy other’s definitions and perceptions. I will not lie—those definitions are hardline drawn on me too, so I thank you for the transparency to teach us all.

Yesterday the picture of a cousin’s son surprised me. He was wearing black eyeliner and it seems like he was wearing lipstick. My immediate reaction was he’s —and fill it in with what society has told me about make up.
I did catch myself because another niece corrected me back in 2019 when she was visiting and said: aunty it’s not just women who wear make up!

So. Hmm. Admitting—I’m learning and I appreciate what you are teaching and loving that you’re living who you are regardless of what others define you as a man.