I felt the pain in your words Dr. Manning, I wish I could help take away your pain. Thanks for sharing a glimpse into the soul of one who has given, loved and sacrificed so much in a marriage. I, unlike the other commenters, can’t identify with what you’re going through —rather, I feel honored to be allowed to read this and help make sense of what I can’t . But can I say—all you’ve achieved is not loss. It’s not all loss. But when you wrote, the pain comes from the “goodness” not the bad—it all makes perfect sense. Here’s wishing you healing and joy….soon.