I admire everything you tried and ended up doing; no one should ever pass judgement on you and hope it will bounce off of you if anyone attempts to (easier said than done, this I know LOL)...
What a powerful story to share with other moms who may be struggling with the same decision -- ultimately it was such a great decision for everyone involved - even your son! I'm so glad such a place existed for you to send to him - those therapists are just angels!
Thanks for sharing this with us!