Hi AW --

I'm sorry to hear your sister has been that thoughtless.

There seem to be two camps of behavior that deal with people like that --

Those who remain frustrated with the lack of change in behavior in selfish people around them and how it affects them...

Then there are those who take decisive action to let selfish people know that their behavior will not be tolerated (my husband is this kind) -- this comes hard to me. I like to not rock the boat - and avoid conflict.

If your sister decides to not look at others' points of view -- she continues to dictate and live with others catering to her needs - unchallenged and encouraging her to keep on with more of the same.

I challenge you to think exactly how much weight of influence do you allow her to have on your life considering how you view her - and what boundaries can you place to make sure that it doesn't continue to hurt you.

You'd be surprised what people are forced to learn when you shock them into the reality -- they do not command authority over areas of your life that are beyond their control.

....just a follower here, sharing thoughts -- that may not apply -- but to keep you reflecting upon whether you need that kind of person affecting your joy and peace.