Bernie, thank you for sharing with us. As I read this, it got me thinking about something that I would love your input if you don’t mind writing about.
When, how and what kinds of questions are appropriate to ask about the death of a loved one?
Do the answers differ if the one asking are close family, distant family or close friends?
I can think of the passing away of two people—I’ve always wanted to ask about their deaths and silence and short words are typically the only thing that seems appropriate.

I have a cousin for instance who from a asthmatic attack died either from asphyxiation or a heart attack…I’m close to her siblings and my aunt. And when I visited (we live in different countries)—I didn’t ask a question.

I doubt I ever would.

But I’m curious—is there a point where talking about it only makes it worse? Would it in anyway come across as we too miss that person and want some closure and just answers because we care and not because it’s being nosy?

Also—health wise, understanding what happens to others leading up to death can make a difference in education in helping another…

I know your take would be your personal one—and I wouldn’t ever generalize based on your answers.

But your wise, loving and empathetic and I’m curious if your answers would be different for your spouse, sister and father.

And if writing about that or sharing is not something you can do—I not only would prefer you not, but ask please to share what is helpful to you.

Warm regards!
(Happy to see you in your writing mojo! ;-)…happy writing!)🌺