Bernie - and I recognize I'm sharing an opinion from one side of the story...sounds like you did your best to stay neutral and still gained an unfavorable judgment.
Not fair at all.
Most new husbands should be aware - many daughters are very close to their moms. I doubt your daughter concealed that from him the entire time they dated. And even if she did - she's your daughter?
I'm with you. Doesn't make sense.
Hope the transition is going smoother....kind wishes!