Benighted, I so wanted to write to you privately but I feel it’s important I place it here publicly.

I have read as much as I can from the moment I started reading you here on Medium—not just your poems but your psychology pieces…your expertise, skill and insight are unparalleled. I feel you have books within you from all you’ve experienced and studied to understand in others.

So I thank you for taking the time to share your perspective. I love and value you —I don’t know how to thank you enough.

I know you are right in your assessment and that amplification was an awful sight to behold—I was angry with myself: why have I let myself be connected for so long, why have I excused this, why did I in that moment choose to open to her, and on and on. Her inconsiderate, out of touch response instantly amplified in my mind how different we are. I’ve known this but chose to ignore….but I must not anymore.

That phrase you shared is a perfect analogy of what I just experienced —and I’ve also seen this in the last chapter of life in a close aunt— it was equally alarming and sad to see.


Thank you, Benighted, for caring and taking the time to share this with me. Much love dearest friend. 🫶🏽