Art, I’m so impressed with this article—as always the transparency and vulnerability. I’m with everyone here on your awareness and then writing about it demonstrates progress.

I think we hold off from saying what we need to many times and you needed the outlet—sure: timing, how and where all matter—but you’re human.

As much as I empathize with Dee—at some point—she owes it to you to understand or try to listen to why it bothers you so much.

The two way marriage walk is not easy—but it’s the one advice I will constantly share. Knowing it bothers our spouses so much should make us ask:

Is it a reasonable request?
Does this help me? Us? And how?
What can I do to demonstrate I care and am willing to try?

Recently I was frustrated that while I’m trying to exercise my husband wasn’t. He’s gotten away with a high metabolism but the protruding pot belly is enlarging…

So I had a conversation about it—I used a lot of “we’s” and talked about how I felt…making effort to not point to how he looked —and ugh…it’s a tough one. Point is: I’m not skinny gal.

And to your well made point: there are other ways they are “letting go” of things they don’t see changing in us and loving us through it all….

Great great piece Arty!!
Good to read from you….be well!!

I’m a big nighttime walker/exercjser! I’m just not a morning person and nighttime is just as valid and good as morning!!😀😍🥳💕💕💕